Is traveling lonely?
Is travel a lonely game?
For many travellers who are about to embark on an adventure of a life time, this may possibly be one of your many thoughts.
Is travel considered a lonely game?
Could it be possible that travel enrich’s you so much that, in fact, it temporarily is yes, but futuristically no?
In this blog I will be throwing the question around and hopefully by the end I will have a suitable conclusion.
For starters, what does loneliness actually mean? I think it’s important to know the difference between loneliness and solitude. They seem similar on the outside, in truth they are very different.
Loneliness by definition: Sadness because one has no friends or company.
Often described as a state of solitude or being alone, it’s actually a state of mind. Loneliness isn’t necessarily about being alone, but instead it’s the feeling of being alone and isolated.
Solitude by definition: The state or situation of being alone.
It’s the state of being alone without being lonely, it’s considered a desirable state of being alone, where you can provide yourself with wonder and sufficient company. It can be used to reflect, inner searching, growth and an enjoyment of some kind.
"Do not confuse solitude with loneliness.
One builds and the other destroys.”
It’s important to know the difference, one travels to explore and get in touch with ones self, not to experience loneliness but solitude. To crave human contact and connectivity is perfectly normal but sometimes you need solitude, it’s all about reading yourself and knowing what you need and providing the necessary opportunities.
“Solitude is an unmarked place beyond the borders of the map, a place where most fear to tread. It’s no surprise, then, that this is where the greatest secrets and most valuable treasures are often hidden.”
The thing is, in the chaos of life, of course you go through many stressful patches and you will need to escape, I went through one of these many patches at university, so I decided to pack my stuff and go, I escaped traveling on my own for a few months.
At that point I believed that in life you just need the necessities which are food, water and a bit of space. A bit of time to rest, recuperate, fix yourself and allow you to be you.
I believed that to have people in your life, they were just life’s added complimentary items, but not necessities to function.
Let’s just say, that in fact says a lot about the people I had around me at the time.
But nonetheless the need for solitude was acquired.
The thing to remember is that when you’re in this mentality,
The caterpillar grows its wings during a season of isolation
I hold solitude high in my levels of importance.
I don’t always want to be stimulated. I don’t always want noise. I don’t always want to hear peoples thoughts and opinions. In fact when it’s my alone time, I find myself. My alone time allows me to put myself first. It helps me reset my life. Untangle the chose and rapidity of life.
That my friend, is solitude and I love it.
You can find it wherever you want. You can climb a mountain to find it, you can find it at sunset/sunrise, watching the stars or you can even find it in a very British thing called a brew, or my favourite, a solo trip to a cafe.
You can find it anywhere you place it.
Someone said to me in Manila airport on my way to New Zealand
“Travel starts on the outside then move’s inwards”
I mean don’t read into that too much, but nonetheless travel isn’t just about taking another step around the world, it’s about learning your own strengths and letting the world teach and enrich you.
“Solitary trees, if they grow at all, grow strong.”
The thing about travel and loneliness is, you can experience it when you uproot yourself from a community you have built yourself into. Leaving your friends, family and community to travel to an unknown destination to meet a whole new world of unknown. And yes that is one of the true thrills of travelling is to explore the unknown, but it can also be one of chasing and creeping factors of the travel lifestyle, as soon as you take up the travel lifestyle you uproot yourself frequently.
Your lifestyle becomes a suitcase of memories.
But is this a temporary loneliness?
Will it in fact, in the future, turn you into a story teller, give you more talking points, more common grounds to make friends and create a whole new community.
Will the world of school have taught you in fact to cherish what you have, will it teach you that friends and family are in fact a necessity? Will it teach you that there’s no stronger bond than a truly good friendship? That in-fact that 13 hour time difference won’t make a difference to the mad gossip they’re bursting to tell you, will it teach you that you can’t escape that easily? That despite not seeing your face in their everyday lives teach you in-fact that you are still very much needed in everyones lives? And most of all will it teach you that
Home is where you make it?
I think the answer is
I think it will teach you so much more than you can ever think.
So is travel a lonely game?
Yes, temporarily, but you’re a student of the world.
Is there a better institution out there? No.
Who knows what you’re going to learn and graduate with?
Embark on that adventure and become a student of the world.
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